Butt Massage!

A great way to make your partner feel good and maybe warm them up for some sexual activity, is a butt or glute massage. I have attached a video on the massaging the rear end. Massaging this area can be quite erotic for both the giver and receiver. Set the tone for the massage even before you get your subject in the room. Light some candles, have nice full towels scattered around and pick up some wonderful massage oil. Massage oil is important because it allows your hands to be forceful yet glide over the areas without resistance. Don't be to ready for sex afterwards because this technique might work so well at relaxing your partner that they might fall asleep. Remember touching is a wonderful tool in building relationship so don't shy away from it.

The Best thing to build a better Relationship.

The single most important thing that I have found that is a common occurrence for couples that have great relationships is that they have fun together. Simply put the simple act of having fun is the best relationship builder. It makes you desire to be together. Far to many times as people are together longer periods of time they just end up going through the motions. They forget having fun together was an important part of deciding to be a couple. As time moves along we get caught up in the daily activities and paying bills together instead of taking some time everyday to do something fun together. If we make a conscious effort to enjoy each others company we start to build and crave that again. Set an hour a day to have to something you both enjoy be it taking a walk or being silly. Once you start having fun together again all the other problems in your relationship will start to fall into place.

Finding your passions

In life we all want to follow our passions but what about in our relationships? Can we have passions within the safety of our relationship. Can we desire something and still give time and care to our relationship. Well of coarse we can, anyone that would expect you to give up your passions is not worried about your overall well being. Encourage your partner to strive for their goals and dreams this in itself will bring the two of your closer. Think of the joy in your partners face as they achieve their goals, now that is what true love is all about.

Being a couple rocks!

I am sure you have all been jealous a time or two of a single friend that is going out all the time and doesn't seem to have a care in the world. However think of it this way what is that single friend going out looking for? It is what you have, they are looking for a partner someone to share their life with. Sure there are some people out there that want to stay single forever. The benefits to being in a relationship far out way the single lifestyle. For starters who cares about you if your single? Who helps you when your down, who makes you feel better when your sick, and who builds memories with you. Most people that are single are going out looking for someone to score with, and you have that person at home with you. Not only do people in relationships have more sex the quality of the sex is much much better. It is easier to experiment a little with someone you are sharing your life with then someone you just picked up in a bar and don't even know their last name. Yes being in a relationship does have some drawbacks but the benefits far out way the negative things. Relationships are like a garden and they grow with time, when your single you are not growing you are just wishing to stay the same. Celebrate your relationship for the wonderful thing it is.

Kindness

"Kindness in words creates confidence,

Kindness in thinking creates profoundness

Kindness in giving creates love"

Lao Tzu

Sometimes we forget how important it is to be kind to our partner. We few them as our rock that is always there. We don't expect them to leave or withdraw when we say things to them. When you really look at it however, we should show more kindness to our partners. We hope they are the constant in our life, we do expect them to be there always for us and yet we direct all our negative energy towards them. When we have a bad day at work, who actually feels the pain when you get home. If you are having financial troubles, who do you get mad at? When something doesn't get done around the house who do you expect to finish it? Nobody is perfect and yet we constantly want our partner to be superhuman and take everything we throw at them. Maybe the next time you want to direct your anger some where you should take it out in exercise or alone, and then come to your partner with kindness and appreciation for them being their to comfort you!

Start your day off together at the breakfast table.

For most couples the start of the morning is hectic and a rush to get ready for work. You can break that tradition and get a more relaxed start to your day by getting up a little earlier and enjoying a small breakfast together. This will help get your relationship and day off to a much better start. It doesn't matter if you eat at home or go out the important part is you spend the time together in a relaxed state, talking and conversing with the person you love. This will help you get a much better start to the day then just jumping up and going. Sure no one wants to get up earlier but think about how it will change your day leaving for work in a relax state compared to one of disarray. The thing you have to remember is to spend the time together, not reading the paper or watching television. I want actual time spend talking or maybe just holding hands while you are eating. Take turns clearing the dishes while the other person hops in the shower or heck forget the dishes and shower together. Love and passion are one of the greatest gifts we are given so don't waste time avoiding them, dive in and get all you can.

Spend alone time together.

This might sound like the silliest thing ever. However you can be alone with someone in the same room. Reading together is one of those things you can do together but be totally apart in your time. Just being in the same room will make you feel like your relationship has grown and is improving. One thing you have to do to make this successful is to keep to yourself. Be together but don't interrupt each other by asking questions or speaking to your partner. Giving them solitude while you are with them takes a lot of self control. However to spend a couple of hours together in the same room while enjoying something on your own brings you closer to understanding each other. Try this exercise for the two of you set a timer for an hour get a book and read together and when you get really good you will be able to touch your partners foot or hand and still not invade there mind space. Being able to be apart while you are together is a challenge but a great wonderful way for a couple to have their space and love you too.

Basketball Madness

If you don't know by now the most important part of the college basketball season is upon us. March Madness will now take it's toll on many a young lady that finds themselves a basketball widow right now. If this is your case, you can do something about it. Hunker down beside your man and find out what all the excitement is about. Learn about how the tournament operates. The beauty of the fact that 65 teams are all trying to keep winning to move towards a national championship. Each game is a win or go home game and no one is safe from upsets. This all might seem a little much for you if you have never experienced it. However, if you want to be with your man this month (well at least on the weekends) you might want to do a little research. Have him show you how to fill out a bracket, let him show you his tricks to picking the winners. Heck the two of you could even put a little sexual wager on the games to spice things up a bit. You owe it to him to try and understand a little bit about this tradition, think about the times you drag him out shopping and he tries to help you pick things out. He is putting forth the effort you might not like his picks but he is trying. Here is an important thing for you to remember the first weekend of the tournament is non stop basketball from about noon to midnight but then it gets less and less as the get closer to the finals. So as march progresses you will have more and more time to spend together.

Teasing a sport in it's own right.

As a couple you are a little more accepting of good nature teasing between the two of you. Heck others could say the same things you partner says but you might deck them. There is a level of trust that comes when you partner teases you, not like you feel when someone else teases you. You might even be able to consider it foreplay. Some couples get great joy out of teasing each other. They get a great rush out of the feeling of teasing each other. Bantering back and forth can create a sexual tension that could just erupt at any point during the evening. Use this to you advantage. Tease with the intention of getting the other person riled up. Use this as your intention of brining them up to the level they would need to be greatly aroused then see if you can coax them into an all out assault on your pleasure. A word of caution this can also back fire on you if you hit a nerve that might send your partner reeling in the other direction. So tread lightly and I hope it works out for you.

Wine Glasses.

Something every couple should have is a good set of wine glasses. You don't have to have a whole bar full and they don't have to be the most expensive glasses. When the two of you get a chance to sit down and share a bottle of wine you don't want to be putting it into the last glasses the McDonald's sold. Nor do you want to pour wine into two totally different glasses that makes you feel like they are are the only ones you can find. There is some symbolic meaning in the fact that the two of you share the exact same glass for the purpose of the drink. This is that it shows you are equals and share in the responsibility of building your relationship. It shows that you are equals and that your love flows from one another like the wine flows across your lips. I don't care if you purchase the cheapest wine in the store you need to make sure you have matching glasses for your toast of love. Once you pour the wine and wait for each other to sip of it's delight you will understand what I am saying.