Ladies committed relationships allow you to explore your slutty side.

Ladies you spend your entire life trying to keep that good girl image, to attract the kind of men that you can spend the rest of your life with. Ever since high school you didn't want to be called a slut or be to easy because it would ruin your reputation. Well once you get into a committed relationship you can throw all that out the window. Once you find a person you feel you can spend the rest of your life with and that you have plenty of time invested in, you can let your guard down a little and explore that dark side that you always had to keep under wraps. Go out and purchase some sex under clothes or maybe even some leather under clothes. Pick out dark colors such as black and red to get away from soft pastel colors you might have worn in the past. Get online and pick out some sex toys to try out with your partner, and start tearing down the wall that has tried to keep you in the good girl image all these years. Believe me you mate will be ecstatic with you new found sexual prowess. Life is way to short and when you have the relationship you want firmly in your grasp it is time to let loose and enjoy the sex that god created for us to frolic in. Don't wait until it's to late, start today.

Can you use sex as cure all?

In most surveys people that claim to have the best relationships also have the best sex lives. In turn people that seem to be in the best of health, also report that their sex life is an important part of their routine. Doctors also will tell you that sex releases hormones that help to treat headaches, and pain. Orgasms are like a euphoric drug when it release the chemicals that cause a state of relaxation. With all this said what the hell is the question about sex, why would anyone not desire these things. How can you justify refusing your partner any of these things either? Increasing your life span, having a great relationship, feeling great what else do you want. Nothing is more fun then experiencing these things together while you are building a strong relationship. Now why are you sitting here still reading? Get your but out there and help your partner out.

Set goals for SEX!

We get so busy in our day to day life that sometimes our sex life gets left behind. We want to be intimate with your partner but things keep getting in the way. Things like sickness, kids, work, family, the list goes on and on. Let me ask you this how many of you out there have had a fun evening planned that would end up with the two of you making love for hours, only to have something happen to disrupt your plans. Well you are not alone and when this happens it seems to throw you off and it's hard to get that special date back. I want to suggest setting a number of times a month to have sex. Be it 4 or 16 times a month that is between the two of you, the only rule is you have to stick to it. Want to gamble a bit on it then throw numbers in a hat and at the beginning of the month pull one out and bam that is how many times you are required to make love this month. Once you agree no backing out set a reward for the two of you for hitting your goal, like a nice dinner out or a little trip. Now it is both of your responsibility to make sure you hit the number. I don't care if you have to make love 3 times the last day you make sure you do it. This helps you form a more important commitment to each other and working for the goal together can be fun and exciting. Keep a countdown on the wall, no one else will know what it is for but the two of you. Once you hit your goal then celebrate break out some champagne and do it right. Then set a goal for the next month.

Being There

Sad or bad times are guaranteed to hit your relationship at some time or another. I am not talking about relationship troubles but the ones that come in from the outside of your relationship. How do you handle it when something happens to upset your partner or upset the both of your? How do you comfort you partner to make them feel better? There is no formula you can follow, because everyone is different. While some people need space others need comfort. You cannot judge your partner by what they need. If they need space as hard as it might be you need to give it to them. However if they need the physical comfort you should be there for them in that manner also. You need to find that specific way that you can make your partner feel good. Some people might want to get away and take a trip, while others might want to just hunker down a home. What ever you find that works just make sure you are there as a means of support. This is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your partner and your relationship.

You don't have to fit a type.

One thing people believe is that you have to fit a specific sexual type. The thing that if you are into bondage you always do that or that if you are into role play you constantly have to dress into character. Well this is crazy, I know that couples can hit several different moods that will change their sexual desires and fantasies as they love and grow together. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be tied up one time and wanting to be passionate and slow the next. This is the spice of life. You can keep your relationship moving forward by understanding this important issue. Say you partner likes you to dress in leather, that doesn't mean that every time you have sex you have to be the leather person. I personally have several different tastes and think that it makes me love sex even more by switching them up. I don't want to get into a pattern where it is the same constantly. Mix it up a bit, not only does this make things interesting but it allows you to try new things that might become high on your favorites list. Sex is the glue that hold all the other important parts of a relationship together. It is the basic nature of our attraction, so put it high on your list. Try different and fun things your partner and you will be glad you did.

Our Stress

Once you become a couple you have to share almost everything. Stress is one of these things that has to be shared. No matter whose has the stress it creeps into both of your lives. When one partner is stressed the other will surely feel the effects of this stress. The other partner might be grouchy or upset, or they might with drawl totally form the relationship for a while. The best method to combat this is take the stress on head first. Dive into the problem that is effecting your partner and see if you can help with a solution or just be an open ear to listen. Sometimes just getting the stress out in the open is enough for your partner to start feeling less stressed. Sometimes their stress demands attraction, don't try to avoid the stress that only makes it worse on both of you. Try to come to a solution and work around it the best you can. Once the stress passes you partner will be so greatfull to you that they might treat you a little special for putting up with their stress problems. If you think you will never have stress in your relationship you are in for a big surprise. No matter how comfortable you are something somewhere, some time will bring the ugly stress monster into your life.

Don't use you partner as a punching bag.

Do you direct all your anger at you partner? If so is that fair? Why do we blow our top at our partner? Why don't we direct you anger at the area that causes it? Does work make you anger and you bring it home? These questions I believe that you already know the answer to. You partner does not deserve to be your punching bag. Yes they need to be there to support you when you are having a bad time of it. However if you want to keep your relationship strong you need to try and focus the anger in another way. Maybe exercise would do it for you, or maybe something artistic, heck you can even take it out by having sex. Just to come home and unload on your partner is not fair to them or you. This only creates a feeling of trying to stay out of you way for your partner. Why would they want to be your support if all you do is direct the anger at them? Think about that for a while, then the next time you have a bad day and come home angry try a different approach. Calmly sit down and explain your feelings to your partner, don't raise you voice or throw things. Allow your partner time to process these feelings and help you direct them in positive ways. Not only will the two of you feel better but most likely the problem will become less of a stress to your relationship.

What about good morning sex?

One thing I think we stop doing once we get so far in a relationship is that we stop having good morning sex. We focus on our intimacy during the evening and we just rush out of bed in the mornings to get on with our day. I want to suggest spending a little more time in the sack in the mornings. There are a couple of obstacles in your way if you are wanting to do enjoy this. The first being kids if you have them morning time might be a little difficult to get some privacy. A simple solution to this is to lock your door or get up a little earlier so that you are finished and relaxing by the time the kids burst into your room. The biggest deterrent in morning sex is morning breath. The funky smell your mouth creates during a night of being shut. Well you can pick up some little toothbrushes that all ready have the toothpaste inside them. Keep these items on the headboard for quick use. This also sends the message to your partner when then wake to see you using this disposable toothbrushes the will know what or who is about to be coming.

Speak my name!

Let me ask you this question how many times to you say your partners name? If you are like most couples you use pet names like babe, honey, sweetheart, etc to address the love of your life. For the next couple of days I want you to try speaking your partners name when you talk to them. For starters it will mix things up a bit and get them aroused that you are using their name. Do this even during any intimate or passion you might have between the two of you. When you climax call out their name, when you want to ask them a question use their name, or even when you are just talking to them use their name in the conversation. Their brain will pick up on this change and it will make them feel good knowing that your thoughts and speaking is directed at them and not just anyone. This might help keep your relationship in that beginning state before you were comfortable enough to use pet names. Mix it up a bit, because it might be a bit much to only use their name all the time, but the fun part will be to watch their reactions the first few times you do this.

Happy Light

If you live in a climate what has a cold harsh winter, the cabin fever can sit in pretty bad during these months. Not being able to be outside much or get the sun light that warms us can be a real downer for not only us but our relationship also. This is where you need to take action and fight the blues of winter. The obvious thing to do is to hop a plane and take a vacation to a warm exotic place. Somewhere that you can drink fruity drinks and make love all night. Now if your budget will not allow you to do this you need to start thinking of other things to do. First thing is whenever the sun is out make sure to open the curtains and let all the light in you can to your house. When the temperature warms up even slightly take a short walk outside to get that brisk air into your lungs. When all these things fail you then you need to start looking for a happy light. I have put the web address of a great happy light in the title of this post so all you have to do is click on the title and you will be whisked off to the happy light store. There are many other versions of this type of device that are less expensive. I personally don't get the winter blahs but the people that I have talked say the light definitely helps with these blahs. Sit in front of you light and close your eyes and feel the light reacting to your skin, feel it absorb into you and then after a few days of this your overall mood should start to come around. Granted this is no substitute for the sun but it might just help you avoid the cabin fever that usually happens around this time of year.