Make a savings goal.

As a couple one of the most important things you can do is make a savings goal. Maybe you want to take an awesome vacation, or purchase new patio furniture. Anything that is not a normal purchase would be a great thing to save for. You can put money in a jug or dedicate so much from each pay check to reach the goal. Keep a tote board up in your house to show how close you are to reaching your goal. Make sure to keep the money safe and in a hard to get place so that you don't just get into it anytime you desire something. Once you finally reach your goal then you can celebrate by purchasing the thing that both of your desire. When picking your treasure make sure to pick something the both of you can use. Don't pick a big screen tv for him to watch the games on and don't pick a new vanity table for her to get ready in the morning. Sharing is one of the secrets to staying healthy as a couple. Not to mention the rewards are so much sweeter when you have someone to enjoy them with. Start stocking back the change now I think I hear Hawaii calling the two of you.

One year of helping couples!

Today marks the one year anniversary of The Couples Spot helping people better their relationships. Our passion is still very deep on this subject and we are looking to branch out more in the coming years. Things such as spirituality and new ways to be erotic with your partner as well as manage the daily activities are essential to us as well as you. We would love to get more input from out viewers. We are anxious to bring out some print books in the coming year to help build better relationship, we also have a cutting edge fun and exciting game to build intimacy in your relationship. The future is wide open for us and for you also. One thing that will never change is that people are going to want to have help with their relationships. Every single one of us at some time or another needs to talk or get advice that will help us get through difficult times. I hope that we hear at The Couples Spot can be some of that support for you. Every question no matter how small or big is important so send us your dilemmas and we will give you our perspective on your question. You can email us at thecouplesspot@gmail.com Thank you for all the support and we look forward to the many more years of helping.

Butt Massage!

A great way to make your partner feel good and maybe warm them up for some sexual activity, is a butt or glute massage. I have attached a video on the massaging the rear end. Massaging this area can be quite erotic for both the giver and receiver. Set the tone for the massage even before you get your subject in the room. Light some candles, have nice full towels scattered around and pick up some wonderful massage oil. Massage oil is important because it allows your hands to be forceful yet glide over the areas without resistance. Don't be to ready for sex afterwards because this technique might work so well at relaxing your partner that they might fall asleep. Remember touching is a wonderful tool in building relationship so don't shy away from it.

The Best thing to build a better Relationship.

The single most important thing that I have found that is a common occurrence for couples that have great relationships is that they have fun together. Simply put the simple act of having fun is the best relationship builder. It makes you desire to be together. Far to many times as people are together longer periods of time they just end up going through the motions. They forget having fun together was an important part of deciding to be a couple. As time moves along we get caught up in the daily activities and paying bills together instead of taking some time everyday to do something fun together. If we make a conscious effort to enjoy each others company we start to build and crave that again. Set an hour a day to have to something you both enjoy be it taking a walk or being silly. Once you start having fun together again all the other problems in your relationship will start to fall into place.

Finding your passions

In life we all want to follow our passions but what about in our relationships? Can we have passions within the safety of our relationship. Can we desire something and still give time and care to our relationship. Well of coarse we can, anyone that would expect you to give up your passions is not worried about your overall well being. Encourage your partner to strive for their goals and dreams this in itself will bring the two of your closer. Think of the joy in your partners face as they achieve their goals, now that is what true love is all about.

Being a couple rocks!

I am sure you have all been jealous a time or two of a single friend that is going out all the time and doesn't seem to have a care in the world. However think of it this way what is that single friend going out looking for? It is what you have, they are looking for a partner someone to share their life with. Sure there are some people out there that want to stay single forever. The benefits to being in a relationship far out way the single lifestyle. For starters who cares about you if your single? Who helps you when your down, who makes you feel better when your sick, and who builds memories with you. Most people that are single are going out looking for someone to score with, and you have that person at home with you. Not only do people in relationships have more sex the quality of the sex is much much better. It is easier to experiment a little with someone you are sharing your life with then someone you just picked up in a bar and don't even know their last name. Yes being in a relationship does have some drawbacks but the benefits far out way the negative things. Relationships are like a garden and they grow with time, when your single you are not growing you are just wishing to stay the same. Celebrate your relationship for the wonderful thing it is.

Kindness

"Kindness in words creates confidence,

Kindness in thinking creates profoundness

Kindness in giving creates love"

Lao Tzu

Sometimes we forget how important it is to be kind to our partner. We few them as our rock that is always there. We don't expect them to leave or withdraw when we say things to them. When you really look at it however, we should show more kindness to our partners. We hope they are the constant in our life, we do expect them to be there always for us and yet we direct all our negative energy towards them. When we have a bad day at work, who actually feels the pain when you get home. If you are having financial troubles, who do you get mad at? When something doesn't get done around the house who do you expect to finish it? Nobody is perfect and yet we constantly want our partner to be superhuman and take everything we throw at them. Maybe the next time you want to direct your anger some where you should take it out in exercise or alone, and then come to your partner with kindness and appreciation for them being their to comfort you!

Start your day off together at the breakfast table.

For most couples the start of the morning is hectic and a rush to get ready for work. You can break that tradition and get a more relaxed start to your day by getting up a little earlier and enjoying a small breakfast together. This will help get your relationship and day off to a much better start. It doesn't matter if you eat at home or go out the important part is you spend the time together in a relaxed state, talking and conversing with the person you love. This will help you get a much better start to the day then just jumping up and going. Sure no one wants to get up earlier but think about how it will change your day leaving for work in a relax state compared to one of disarray. The thing you have to remember is to spend the time together, not reading the paper or watching television. I want actual time spend talking or maybe just holding hands while you are eating. Take turns clearing the dishes while the other person hops in the shower or heck forget the dishes and shower together. Love and passion are one of the greatest gifts we are given so don't waste time avoiding them, dive in and get all you can.

Spend alone time together.

This might sound like the silliest thing ever. However you can be alone with someone in the same room. Reading together is one of those things you can do together but be totally apart in your time. Just being in the same room will make you feel like your relationship has grown and is improving. One thing you have to do to make this successful is to keep to yourself. Be together but don't interrupt each other by asking questions or speaking to your partner. Giving them solitude while you are with them takes a lot of self control. However to spend a couple of hours together in the same room while enjoying something on your own brings you closer to understanding each other. Try this exercise for the two of you set a timer for an hour get a book and read together and when you get really good you will be able to touch your partners foot or hand and still not invade there mind space. Being able to be apart while you are together is a challenge but a great wonderful way for a couple to have their space and love you too.

Basketball Madness

If you don't know by now the most important part of the college basketball season is upon us. March Madness will now take it's toll on many a young lady that finds themselves a basketball widow right now. If this is your case, you can do something about it. Hunker down beside your man and find out what all the excitement is about. Learn about how the tournament operates. The beauty of the fact that 65 teams are all trying to keep winning to move towards a national championship. Each game is a win or go home game and no one is safe from upsets. This all might seem a little much for you if you have never experienced it. However, if you want to be with your man this month (well at least on the weekends) you might want to do a little research. Have him show you how to fill out a bracket, let him show you his tricks to picking the winners. Heck the two of you could even put a little sexual wager on the games to spice things up a bit. You owe it to him to try and understand a little bit about this tradition, think about the times you drag him out shopping and he tries to help you pick things out. He is putting forth the effort you might not like his picks but he is trying. Here is an important thing for you to remember the first weekend of the tournament is non stop basketball from about noon to midnight but then it gets less and less as the get closer to the finals. So as march progresses you will have more and more time to spend together.