Sexy Sleepwear for men??? where is it?

About every week we get a new Victoria Secret Catalog in the mail. Page after page of beautiful women wearing the most sexy things you can imagine. The images are beautiful and sexy and they get me thinking about sex right away. However what is sexy for a man to wear. Boxers is about the only thing that pops into my mind and they have overdone that so much. I mean really are boxers with cartoon characters on them sex??? Another fact is that they make sexy clothing for women that are a little out of shape but for men where is the sexy thing that hides our bellies. Does the world not care about the state of sexiness for men? How can we look sexy with out looking, well for lack of a better word, silly. I mean can us normal guys pull off a small pair of undies or a thong with a banana on the front? Come on designers I challenge you to make something that will make us men look sexy and not silly. I don't know the answer or I would market it myself. Sexy shouldn't just be for the really in shape people, we all want to feel comfortable in our bodies and sex would be great exercise for some people. So we as a society need to find something that will have our partners biting their lips with ecstasy instead of rolling around on the bed laughing.

Birth Control for a solid relationship

In any relationship where sex is involved you will need to consider birth control unless you are wanting to have children. You might think this is an easy choice but it is as different as there are as many couples out there. Condoms are great but they don't allow you to feel the closeness. The pill is consistent but has some major hormonal effects for some women. Diaphragms, IUD's, female condoms, etc all have one draw back or another. There is not perfect solution that is 100% effective and most of them do not allow you to be spontaneous. So, you might ask what is the right choice should you get a vasectomy or your tubes tied? Well are you going to want to have kids at some point and time? If so then these are not options and again they are not 100% effective. They are a little closer but still cases have been reported where pregnancy has occurred after either of these procedures have been performed. The right answer for you depends on the two of you, which method offers the most protection while fitting into your lifestyle. Is it right for you to put the pressure on the woman to remember to take the pill all the time, or will condoms not let you feel the pleasure that both of you enjoy. Together you have to way all the options, another thing to consider is how you feel on pregnancy is it something you both might want at some point. Then maybe you can choose a lesser effective method and play a little hit or miss game. You can even switch it up a bit use condoms one time and then use a diaphragm the next time. What ever you choice it needs to be a combined choice and that will make it work the best for the both of you.

Standing in your partners shoes.

Have you ever wondered how your partner is thinking? Wondering how they are viewing what you are saying or how they are truly feeling about a subject. Well there is a form of meditation where you try to place yourself in this other persons position to try and feel how they view the subject you are wondering about. Two people can view the same thing in many different was. You need to listen to your partners feelings then try to meditate and put yourself in their positions knowing how they feel. You might get a better understanding of how they are viewing the subject. This doesn't say that the way you are viewing it is wrong it is just that they have a different perspective. Until you can step out of your feelings you might not ever understand theirs. Maybe you don't have to get into a deep meditation to see this? Maybe you can be objective without getting into a zen like state, if so more power to you. I suggest sitting alone in a quite space, relax yourself with breathing and motionlessness. Then visualize the person you want to understand better, then become them in your mind and look at yourself. Knowing how they tell you they feel, visualize it from their perspective while you are looking at yourself. Have them do they same if they are open to it and maybe you both will realize that neither of your is wrong and both of you are right. Funny that is how opinions work, yet without stepping out of our own shoes sometimes it is hard to swallow.

Can your relationship be spontaneous in this day and age.

Most people want their relationship to just fall in their lap. You want a magical fairy tale that is happy all the time and just happens. Spontaneous relationships are a fairy tale, the truth is relationships take work and lot of it. The rewards are amazing but without putting the effort into them you will be left, just waiting for things to happen. Sure their are some people that are so in tune with each other that they seem to think the same but believe me they have issues just like everyone else. Spontaneous happens when you are not thinking about what you want. I don't know anyone that doesn't think about a relationship if they want one. I think the word spontaneous should be taken out of any association with a relationship. Think about this. People always say that they want spontaneous sex and when it happens the passion and love are great. However, you end up waiting and waiting and waiting for the spontaneous to happen. It's frustrating to wait for passion and love, taking the initiative to bring those feelings on is how you grow a relationship. If you have to wait for spontaneous to show your partner how much you care about them they might get the feeling you don't care. Stop waiting for things to just happen in your relationship. Take them by the balls and make what you want happen. Go as far as to schedule things like dates, getaways, walks, talks and even sex. Quite waiting on spontaneous because it never shows up when you need it to. Take charge and take action today.

Is a kiss just a kiss?

When you kiss your partner good bye or hello is it just a greeting or more than that? After all you don't kiss everyone hello or goodbye do you? Aside from you kids or your parents that usually doesn't happen. So, I ask again is a kiss more than we give it credit for. Is it the passing of breath between two lovers? Is it exchanging life force or your inner light? We might never know why a kiss is so important. The tingling lips the moister in the act causes me to believe that is a sharing in some sort of way. You can even tell your partners feelings in their kiss, by the pressure or the force behind it. Heck you can even tell if they are mad at you by their kiss. Maybe if we put more focus on each kiss we share with our partner we might start to become closer then ever before. Some people say that kissing is foreplay and I agree but I think it is so much more deeper that that. I think it is two being one and the sharing of desires and passions and of space. Most people don't think about kissing in this manner but next time you kiss your partner really see if you can feel what they are feeling, then look deep in their eyes telling them you love them.

Self Help for couples.

If you like most people you have read several self help books in your life time. No matter if you wanted to increase your memory, get in better shape, or improve areas that you lack a little in. Well why not take a self help book and work on it together. What better support can you have then your partner. Walking through the ins and outs of what ever area you want to improve on together will also bring you closer together. If you want to improve your finances, you can find plenty of authors that will help the two of you. You can make action plans together and take it upon yourselves to push the other partner when they lag behind. Get in shape together, learn a new language, or improve your love life. Whatever you challenge might be go ahead and dive into it together. Learning never hurt anyone so even if the subject might not interest you as much as your partner still but the effort into making it a priority. If you would like to improve the intimacy in your relationship I would suggest picking up SEXY CHALLENGES from the authors of the couples spot to start out with.

Experiment with your toes a little

Toes, toes, toes, they never get the recognition they deserve. Unless you have a foot fetish or a toe fetish they pretty much go unnoticed. However, toes can be wonderfully sexy. Freshly painted toenails can add an excitement to your love making. Using your toes as a sensual tool can be a challenge that most couples will find a little exciting. You can do so much with your toes that are sexy. Think about massaging your partner with you toes. Using your toes like your fingers you can run them across your partners genitals to get them aroused and feeling vital with a new sensation. Rubbing your partners toes can be a turn on for both partners with the use of oil and technique you can turn your toes into a erogenous zone very quickly. Kissing and sucking on clean toes gives another sensual dimension to your love making. Toes may not be the first thing you think about when you become aroused but they can definitely add to the adventure of intimacy.

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Being intimate is not a bargaining tool.

One thing every person knows is that intimacy and sex is important in a relationship. However, so many couples use it as a bargaining tool. Both sides are to blame. Remember when you started dating and the passion and intimacy just happened. Some how when we become life partners we forget about that. We let things like work, kids, and countless other things get in the way of the freedom we had in our intimacy. Yet we do nothing about it. We hear things like "Well if you helped more around the house, I might be in the mood more" or "Well if you didn't let yourself go, I would be more attracted to you again" These things hurt and are most definitely not good for a relationship. Never should you put a tag on your love life, that should be a mutual exchange of the love between the two of you, not just a chore. You can't force sex and you can't ignore sex, it has to be in a relationship to make both partners happy. The passion has to come back and you have to compromise or you just end up becoming roommates. Use this exercise to help you get over you stipulations on sex, think about the wonderful things your partner does, think about the wonderful times you have had together, and relive all those feelings. Do you want to create more of them? Well think back what was going on in your life when they happened, most likely there was a lot of passion between the two of you????? Are you getting the picture make it a point to woe each other again, get excited about having a date together, kiss when you come home from work, these little things will start to manifest your desire for each other and soon you won't have to worry about it the passion will take care of itself.

Discussing thing in a deeper Manner.

Do you know your partners views on life and death, what about their religious beliefs or feelings? Do they believe in evolution, or what about bigfoot, the loch ness monster, or aliens? How do they feel about dreams and their spirit? Most people I hope feel comfortable enough with their partners to let them know how they feel about these things. However, still several do not for fear of having a different opinion then the one they love. After all how could two people stay together is one believes in bigfoot and the other thinks it is just a guy in an ape suite? I joke but their is a lot of passion in discussing your believes no matter what they are on. The wonderful part about it is most likely we will never know the correct answers as long as we are on earth. We can have different views on what happens after death because we don't know for sure. The important thing is to discuss these feelings, explain them to your lover, and listen without judging to their views. This is a great way to get closer, excepting their side and their feelings will make you understand them a little better. This got started last night on our drive home from the John Edwards -Psychic Medium show we attended last night. My partner has very deep and thought out views on spirituality and I love to hear her explain them. The wonderful part about her is that she will listen to my views or won't laugh at my questions. I love these deep conversations with her we have been having them a lot lately and they have my mind thinking about things that I didn't even realize would have impact on my life. The point of all this is get to know your partner a little better and you don't have to agree 100% with them but it is nice to hear their feelings and passion about them.

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Special Note to my partner if you are reading this - "Thank you for the wonderful conversations we have, I love hearing your views and passions. Don't ever stop explaining your feelings to me. I love you"