Happy Light

If you live in a climate what has a cold harsh winter, the cabin fever can sit in pretty bad during these months. Not being able to be outside much or get the sun light that warms us can be a real downer for not only us but our relationship also. This is where you need to take action and fight the blues of winter. The obvious thing to do is to hop a plane and take a vacation to a warm exotic place. Somewhere that you can drink fruity drinks and make love all night. Now if your budget will not allow you to do this you need to start thinking of other things to do. First thing is whenever the sun is out make sure to open the curtains and let all the light in you can to your house. When the temperature warms up even slightly take a short walk outside to get that brisk air into your lungs. When all these things fail you then you need to start looking for a happy light. I have put the web address of a great happy light in the title of this post so all you have to do is click on the title and you will be whisked off to the happy light store. There are many other versions of this type of device that are less expensive. I personally don't get the winter blahs but the people that I have talked say the light definitely helps with these blahs. Sit in front of you light and close your eyes and feel the light reacting to your skin, feel it absorb into you and then after a few days of this your overall mood should start to come around. Granted this is no substitute for the sun but it might just help you avoid the cabin fever that usually happens around this time of year.

Ladies shave those legs before bed.

There are many countries around the world where the women don't shave their legs. This is accepted by their culture and is not thought of as unattractive in these countries. However here in America it is very unusual to see a woman with hair on her legs. Here we usually look at is as someone that doesn't take care of themselves.

Ladies your legs are a valuable asset to you and your relationship. Soft shaven legs are sexy and can make even the most straight laced man melt. Us men love to run our hands across your fresh soft shaven legs and for obvious reasons. With that said ladies you might want to change up your routine a little. For example I shave my face a lot of times before I go to bed, so that just incase my partner wants to get close or intimate, she is not met with the sandpaper my face becomes. Same holds true for you ladies. If you know (and you know when you want to) you are wanting to be a little more then sleeping partners make the effort to shave those sexy legs of yours. That way your partner will drool to get his/her hands all over those soft legs of yours. Not only do your legs help with getting your partner to touch you, but they also make you feel more sexy. Fresh shaved legs are also a must if you like to wear stockings and I will speak for most of the men out there and say, "We love stockings" The nice part about using your sexy legs is that you don't have to be naked to get the feeling. You can put on a nice pair of shorts and get the foreplay started a little before you make it to the bedroom. Other things you might consider is a nice lotion to use on your legs to make them even softer and smell wonderful.

Chime in and let us know what how important legs are in your relationship by sending comments to me at thecouplesspot@gmail.com

How many orgasms can you handle!

Something you need to consider when you are faced with an evening of long and drawn out passion, is "How many times can you orgasm?" When you are wanting to have a long night of love making you don't want it to be over in a short time period. First thing you need to look at is which partner can orgasm more often. Once you decide who that person is then you should make sure you start with that person. Bring them to orgasm with oral or hand stimulation and let them know that you plan for them to have more of these feelings. Once you get them off then you can focus on getting both of you off. Make sure you use lots of foreplay and bring them to the edge and then stop and swelter the feeling and calm them down. I suggest doing this only if you have a lot of time on your hands. The last thing you want to do is get them close then stop and not be able to continue. I suggest setting a timer in an earlier post to make sure you spend enough time on foreplay. Stick with that plan and give foreplay the credit it deserves. Build you anticipation of your own orgasm, it doing this you will make your orgasm amazing. Take breaks and switch things up from time to time try different positions or enter a different orifice from time to time. You have time so try some different things. Here is the beauty of this, if you want to have multiple orgasms all you have to do is take some time in between each one to rejuvenate. Don't be afraid to take a shower then come back and make love some more. So many people thing that once the sex is done you hope up or roll over and go to sleep. That doesn't have to be the case, make it a challenge to try to turn the other person on again. Do this until it is obvious that no more activity is going to be happening. Then you can hold each other and fall asleep with passionate love making being your sleeping pill.

Reevaluate your relationship from time to time.

From time to time we need to take a good look at our relationship. Not to decide if we need to be in it or not. We need to look at it to see what we can do to make it better. Step back and really look for things that the both of you feel would make your relationship better. Maybe looking for a new job, buying a house, spending more time together, or having a child would move your relationship into the next level. We all get comfortable and want everything to stay status quo but this just give your relationship the blahs. Never trying or striving for something new and improved only locks you into the feeling your relationship is boring. This is not a decision you should make alone this one has to be a joint effort. If only one of you decides your relationship needs a major overhaul, you might meet with some pretty tough resistance. Deciding together will help bring you closer and help you meet this goal you are sitting for your relationship. Maybe you want to go on dates more, or get a grip on your finances no matter what you want to improve the battle will be won faster when both of you are working together. Sit down together, today and make notes on things you both want to improve on and then pick one and both of you focus on it until you start to see it improving. After that go to the next item on your list, by continuing to improve your relationship all the time you are sitting yourselves up for a life long relationship of epic nature.

Make today a special holiday!

Okay so there is nothing special about today, unless it might happen to be your birthday. However you can make everyday a special day just by declaring it to be. Do this in your relationship just to help build up your love and passion. Make up a silly holiday and then let your partner know what this holiday is. You can send them a text message, an email or you can even just leave them a hand written note. If the two of you have a calendar that you both use then you can even put the holiday on your calendar. Some examples of special holidays might be : GIVE YOUR WIFE A BIG KISS DAY, BACK RUB DAY, of WEAR SEXY PANTIES DAY. You can make them as silly as you want after all it is a day that you are making up. Be funny and creative and make them very specific. These holidays can be made to fit anything you wish from taking a trip to inducing intimacy. Some other examples might be TAKE A SHOWER TOGETHER DAY, WATCH A BALLGAME DAY, or MARATHON SEX DAY. You could even make a pact to let each other invent a holiday each month and the other has to help observe it with you. Now get on with it and enjoy your holiday, what ever it might be.

Talk dirty sometimes

We all know that some people like to talk dirty during the throws of passion. It is perfectly normal and accepted. On occasion however, you can bring it out of the bedroom for it's shock value. I don't condone using it casually but at certain times it can be a really effective tool in getting what you want. For instance if you partner is watching sports most likely into the game and not much will get their attention. Now if you walk up and whisper in their ear "Will you please come F**K me" I am sure you will draw their attention away from whatever they are watching. You don't even have to speak the word to make them effective. Say you out at dinner and you find your partner looking very attractive, carefully scribble on a napkin some naughty words and slip it to them across the table. You might see them searching for the waiter to get the check as quickly as possible. Don't use this method to often, as it will lose it's appeal if you go the well to many times. Have fun with it and I am sure you partner will appreciate it, also.

Push each other to be healthier.

One of the greatest things you can do for you partner is to push them to be healthier. No body is with them more and sees the things that they do and eat more then you do. When you go out to eat the two of you can search the menu for healthy choices that fit your needs and desires. You are also there to push them to complete their exercise tasks. With this support form the person they love the most it is sure to be the encouragement they need to keep with this new regiment. With all that in mind, the best thing you can do is lead by example. Don't be the partner that says to not eat that piece of chocolate cake then later they find out you ate it. Be the strength in your relationship and be the rock in the healthy factor, also. Encourage them by telling them how much more sexy they look by doing the exercises and eating better. That type of encouragement will most likely get anyone off the couch and on the exercise bike. Heck make it a contest each week to see who can do the best then the winner can pick the movie you go see on date night, or the winners gets a new item of clothing. What ever the incentive, make sure that you are having fun with it and it gets your mind set on being healthier.

Sexual tip - Simple change your angle

Want to find something that is simple to try in bed with your partner tonight. However, you don't want to scare them by introducing something they might not be ready for. Well by simply changing your angle of thrusting you can change and give different feeling to sex. This goes for both men and women. Women you can do this simply by turning around during sex. Ladies if you are on top then turn to face away from your partner (Reverse cowgirl) and see how much different it feels. Men for you you have to do a little more work to give your partner a different feel. One of my favorites is to thrust upwards instead of into the partner. This give a better change of hitting the g-spot during sex. Another great idea is to after you thrust and before you begin the return to lift your hips a little so the penis drags on the front of the vagina as it slips backwards. You can also circle your hips a little to try to stimulate different areas of your partner. If you have a little trouble with the different thrusting styles you can always incorporate the use of pillows. Purchase several pillows of different styles and shapes and place them areas such as under the back or butt. Maybe put them so that they elevate the legs or support areas that might be a little painful for your partner. Just make sure to get pillows that are washable as they might get a little soiled. Have a great day and a great night of sex.

Who is the dominant sexual partner?

Most relationships has a dominant sexual partner. I am not taking a physical force in the bedroom, but one that needs or wants sex more. I want to hear how your viewers handle the difference between the two levels of sexual desire. Do you compromise or does one partner just lose out? I want to hear about your dealings with this common problem in a relationships. I am trying to get a handle on how other are dealing with this and what might be the best solution. I understand both sides or this. Both partners deserve to get what they want and no one can force someone to enjoy intimacy more. Do you have means that help out with this problem, maybe a book, or an activity or even alcohol that helps to get you on the same plane in your sexual desire. You can drop me a line at thecouplesspot@gmail.com I will look forward to hearing from you.

Sexual Wonder Drug - W-A-T-E-R-

I just currently found out how important water is to our sexual health. From helping to create lubrication to the fluids we release during orgasm. Not to mention the importance of it for the activity of sex itself and to keep us hydrated during the motions. Obviously water is essential to our everyday life but water can also help your sexual stamina and can even help in getting you in the mood. The article I read suggested you treat your sexual experiences like an exercise. Drinking plenty of water before and after the intimacy. This is claimed to help you enjoy your sex better as well as help you rejuvenate faster to give you a chance at that second and third try during the evening. Encourage your parter to partake of the water consumption also and see how it effects your sex life. Our bodies are built to enjoy sexual activities and when you add water into the mix you can enjoy sex a whole lot more.

The Waterboy, staring Adam Sandler now takes on a whole new meaning!!!!