Don't save passion for special occasions.

Special occasions deserve special treatment, but if your saving your passion for these times you are missing out on the joys of being in love. Passion is not a reward it is a living breathing thing that need to be feed everyday. You don't have to attack each other everyday but you can put it into the way you kiss each other. Holding hands is another great way to show passion in a normal setting without being naked. Now when you have sex you can let your passions run wild but think of other times to be passionate each and everyday. Say kind things to each other, when no one is looking grab your partners rear end and give it a quick squeeze, the more you do to build and feed your passion the better it will be when you get behind closed doors.

Driving and Talking.

One of the best things you can do to to improve the communication in your relationship is to turn off the radio while you are driving. Make it a point to converse during any drive that you take, especially the longer ones. It might be easy to turn on the radio and zone out but where does that get you. Pick some topics before you leave to discuss, avoid things with a personal feel, like your children, bills, work etc. Pick something out of the news and discuss your feelings on it. You might find that you take the longer way to get more discussion time.

Today is my Birthday!

Yes today is my birthday and I am excited. As far as couples go this is a great time for the two of you to experiment a little. The birthday girl/boy is the one that should get to choose what happens on their birthday. As the present giver and as long as the request is not to far out of your comfort zone, do it. Try something different you might be amazed at how much it excites you plus you will have the joy of knowing you did it for that special person in your life on there birthday. Make your partners birthday as special as you can it is the one day they can be a little selfish so don't take that thunder away from them. Plus don't forget you will be having a birthday soon, too.

Take advantage of time apart.

There are times when you and your partner will have to spend some nights apart. Be it work, children commitments, or just functions they are attending you will have to break apart. This might not be hard for some couples. However, some people have trouble sleeping when their partner is not in bed with them, or they seem lost and don't know what to do for sure. If you are one of these people that your life revolves around your relationship then you need to prepare for nights apart. Save things you need to get done for you times apart, rent movies you have wanted to watch that your partner might not enjoy, catch up with some old friends, anything you can think of to keep your mind off the time. By doing this you will soon find that the time has passed and you are ready for bed. Another thing you might do is stay up later than normal so that you are really tired when you got to bed. This way you don't lay in bed and think about that special person that is not beside you. Remember the time will pass and use it to your advantage. Get things done so that you have time with your partner when they return. Clean the house if you have nothing else to do that will occupy a lot of time.

Exercise, eating right, .....

We put so much time working out, trying to eat right and protecting our bodies. How much time do you put in protecting your relationship? Do you read new books on improving your relationship do you watch videos that promote building your relationship? Why not? We understand that everything we want in life we have to work for. Our house, our car, a lean body, good health but yet we just expect our relationships to fall into place. Not only do we expect them to fall into place but we also expect them to be wonderful and great. Well if you just sat around on the couch wanting to get in better shape, would it happen? No, you have to work at it, so just like with exercise stop procrastinating and get your butt up and start working on your relationship. Pick up some books, read articles, search the internet for anything that will put more value in your relationship. Just like with exercising your body you don't get results fast but over time you will gradually start seeing improvement in your relationship and you partner will also.

Is love a perception or a feeling?

We have all heard at some point and time that love is a feeling. Love is caring about another individual as much if not more than yourself. We all strive to get that feeling and are comfortable when we feel we have it. Now my question is can you measure the amount of love one person has for another? If not then is love just your perception of that feeling? Take for example one person might cook dinner for their partner because they love them and wants them to have a good meal. To the next person that might just be one of the chores that they perform at their household. I question and wonder if the feeling comes first or the perception? If you can think your love is unconditional then maybe you think the feeling comes first. On the other hand however do we have to wait for the actions to show us that we are loved. It seems like the chicken and egg routine all over again. I personal feel like people view love in very different manners, and I believe that some people do feel the lover first and others need the perception first to validate the love. I think maybe if it is possible that it's a combination of the two. Happening at the exact same time that creates true love. This might be getting a little deep for you and I am not asking you to question your feelings and or love for your partner. I am just curious as to how we arrive at loving someone.

Keep a couples diary

Have you ever been sitting around together and wondering what you were doing last year at this time? Maybe you are sitting here right now going I hope that you both remember this a year from now. Well why not keep a journal of what is going on in your life. Right down the happy and sad events, your feelings and where you think the future will be going and then in a year read that entry to see how you felt or see how close you are to getting to the place you wanted to a year ago. Once you get past the first year you will have entries to read each and everyday as you enter your newest thoughts and feelings. If you don't want the hassle of keeping a journal lying around then create a blog for the two of you. You don't even have to publish it keep it in a word document you can add pictures or what ever floats you boat. One of the biggest reasons for doing this is to show you how problems get solved or just go away. Sometimes we stress way to much about our troubles not realizing that they will pass in time. No matter which way you decide to keep your couples diary start it today and you will be one day closer to be able to answer that question: What were we doing a year ago?

Sexy Sleepwear for men??? where is it?

About every week we get a new Victoria Secret Catalog in the mail. Page after page of beautiful women wearing the most sexy things you can imagine. The images are beautiful and sexy and they get me thinking about sex right away. However what is sexy for a man to wear. Boxers is about the only thing that pops into my mind and they have overdone that so much. I mean really are boxers with cartoon characters on them sex??? Another fact is that they make sexy clothing for women that are a little out of shape but for men where is the sexy thing that hides our bellies. Does the world not care about the state of sexiness for men? How can we look sexy with out looking, well for lack of a better word, silly. I mean can us normal guys pull off a small pair of undies or a thong with a banana on the front? Come on designers I challenge you to make something that will make us men look sexy and not silly. I don't know the answer or I would market it myself. Sexy shouldn't just be for the really in shape people, we all want to feel comfortable in our bodies and sex would be great exercise for some people. So we as a society need to find something that will have our partners biting their lips with ecstasy instead of rolling around on the bed laughing.

Birth Control for a solid relationship

In any relationship where sex is involved you will need to consider birth control unless you are wanting to have children. You might think this is an easy choice but it is as different as there are as many couples out there. Condoms are great but they don't allow you to feel the closeness. The pill is consistent but has some major hormonal effects for some women. Diaphragms, IUD's, female condoms, etc all have one draw back or another. There is not perfect solution that is 100% effective and most of them do not allow you to be spontaneous. So, you might ask what is the right choice should you get a vasectomy or your tubes tied? Well are you going to want to have kids at some point and time? If so then these are not options and again they are not 100% effective. They are a little closer but still cases have been reported where pregnancy has occurred after either of these procedures have been performed. The right answer for you depends on the two of you, which method offers the most protection while fitting into your lifestyle. Is it right for you to put the pressure on the woman to remember to take the pill all the time, or will condoms not let you feel the pleasure that both of you enjoy. Together you have to way all the options, another thing to consider is how you feel on pregnancy is it something you both might want at some point. Then maybe you can choose a lesser effective method and play a little hit or miss game. You can even switch it up a bit use condoms one time and then use a diaphragm the next time. What ever you choice it needs to be a combined choice and that will make it work the best for the both of you.

Standing in your partners shoes.

Have you ever wondered how your partner is thinking? Wondering how they are viewing what you are saying or how they are truly feeling about a subject. Well there is a form of meditation where you try to place yourself in this other persons position to try and feel how they view the subject you are wondering about. Two people can view the same thing in many different was. You need to listen to your partners feelings then try to meditate and put yourself in their positions knowing how they feel. You might get a better understanding of how they are viewing the subject. This doesn't say that the way you are viewing it is wrong it is just that they have a different perspective. Until you can step out of your feelings you might not ever understand theirs. Maybe you don't have to get into a deep meditation to see this? Maybe you can be objective without getting into a zen like state, if so more power to you. I suggest sitting alone in a quite space, relax yourself with breathing and motionlessness. Then visualize the person you want to understand better, then become them in your mind and look at yourself. Knowing how they tell you they feel, visualize it from their perspective while you are looking at yourself. Have them do they same if they are open to it and maybe you both will realize that neither of your is wrong and both of you are right. Funny that is how opinions work, yet without stepping out of our own shoes sometimes it is hard to swallow.